“Just because you married your wife doesn’t mean you deserve her.”

That got me thinking about how I treat my wife. We talk all the time here about how to treat others, but sometimes our spouse is so much a part of “us” we forget we have to treat them even better than “others”!

So my challenge to you is that you remember how you were before you got married and how you thought of them all the time. Could not wait to spend time with them. Remember the love you felt! Remember you would and did do anything for them. How your happiness depended on making them happy! Maybe then we can answer the question “Do you deserve each other?”

Thanks for reading,

Randy J Bradley

A real good read!

Randy J Bradley

One more thing I remember along these lines of thoughts, “Fake it ‘til you make it.”

All three of these thoughts have some great merit when it comes to choosing how you want be and then being a “Man of Action”! Let me take some time to expound at the risk of being redundant. If you want to be a endurance runner like a marathon runner what do you do? Well you don’t sit around the house and do nothing! You get up and do what runners do run, eat well, by the best running shoes, wear the clothing that runners wear in short you act like a runner, you train like a runner, you learn to think like a runner! You become the runner you want to be by being a runner more and more every day. You are not a runner at first; some might even call you a want-a-be runner or a fake runner! But if you keep at it one day you will make it and will be a real runner!

To wrap this up I want to go back to what I started out with. “You BECOME what you want to BE by BEING what you want to BECOME every day.” (Become – Be: Being ­– Become)

Be a Man or Woman of action! Become what you want to be by being! Even if you have to ACT the part or even FAKE the being until you become just that.

One more word of advice, you must know what it is you want to become and keep a clear image of it in your mind. Then learn what that kind of person does, what they think about, what they eat, drink, dream about, what they wear, how they walk in short learn everything you can about what a person does to make them what it is you want to BE!

Good luck!

Randy J Bradley

That is what I want to do with Life’s Golden Rule Blog. We have been silent because living life has got in the way. We have stopped sending out new emails. Glad to report that we still have quite a few email sign ups and send out the 70 plus lessons to them but when that ends there is no more.

So what to do? Revival of the blog posts! I hope to add more of a personal touch to the posts. The others were written more like lessons than posts. You all will have to tell me what you think.

So starting today with this public announcement that I am going to start posting again be watching for more!

Randy J Bradley

1. Have I done any good in the world today?
Have I helped anyone in need?
Have I cheered up the sad and made someone feel glad?
If not, I have failed indeed.
Has anyone’s burden been lighter today
Because I was willing to share?
Have the sick and the weary been helped on their way?
When they needed my help was I there?

[Chorus]
Then wake up and do something more
Than dream of your mansion above.
Doing good is a pleasure, a joy beyond measure,
A blessing of duty and love.

2. There are chances for work all around just now,
Opportunities right in our way.
Do not let them pass by, saying, “Sometime I’ll try,”
But go and do something today.
’Tis noble of man to work and to give;
Love’s labor has merit alone.
Only he who does something helps others to live.
To God each good work will be known.

Text and music: Will L. Thompson, 1847–1909

I appreciate a great conversation because it is a good way to get to know the other party at a deeper level. I am very open minded and frank, so to the ones who can’t handle the truths, probably can’t handle me and a lot of things. SARCASTIC? Oh yea… I have a lot of energy!

Everyday you wake, you are blessed because you are living. To attain happiness you need to know what truly makes you happy. Materialistic things are just that; materialistic offers no emotion, lovers are human and as capable as they are in loving you as they are in hurting you, self approval is better than any one opinion because others will always have their idea of what you should be instead of allowing you to grow into who you could be, self doubt will only conquer the greatness in you, insecurity will only leave you empty. So take heed in the choices you are able to make because you have the freedom to make them, don’t complain about what life has given you, take what life has offered you and work hard to achieve what you desire. You have the heart to do so…go for it!!!

I love being surrounded by positive people and live by being positive despite the bitterness that life often teaches us at various phases that we have to go through. Sometimes what we need is not answers to our questions about life. What we really need is to have faith that it is for the best and if it isn’t we should do something about it. Positivity leads to Freedom but Freedom does not lead to positivity unless you make your choices carefully.

It’s your attitude and not your aptitude that determines your altitude. If you can understand this profound truth at a deeper level you’ll be able to bring out the best in yourself and never look at a successful person and wish u were them, instead you’d be looked up upon by people that have yet to understand the secret to your success.

What would you attempt if you had no fear? Where would you go, who would you talk to, what would you tell people? I think so many of us go through life missing out on the most extraordinary opportunities simply because we were afraid of what could potentially go wrong. We are afraid of rejection, afraid of embarrassment, afraid of judgment. We are so concerned with what the world thinks of us that we conform to a fake identity in hopes of being more accepted than who we are, and we feel miserable and exhausted for having to put up such a show all the time. Sometimes we go so far down that path that we forget who we really are all together. Why be miserable, be who you are and just shine !

Dave…

I believe the answer to creating a meaningful relationship is giving. It is so easy to be selfish and to feel a sense of entitlement in our relationships. We somehow think that our lack of more meaningful relationships with others in our lives is someone else’s fault. “People just aren’t nice anymore,” we may think. The problem is that if we wait for the perfect relationships to come along, we will find that life is not as good when we are not giving.

Want to make meaningful relationships? Give. Start looking for what you can offer others instead of what they can give you. You’ll find that a life filled with friendships is much better to live.

In the book, The Gift Of Acabar, the star Acabar explains to the boy, Tulo, the answer to these questions.

“If you had been born in luxury you wouldn’t have this marvelous opportunity to make yourself strong and resourceful through your own effort. To struggle is the only certain way for anyone to achieve his full potential. Did your mother give up when your father was taken from you? No! You should have learned from her example. Instead, you’ve done little but heap pity on yourself!”

“I can’t help it. I do try, but life seems so hopeless for me. I can’t even walk like other people.”

Acabar’s voice was like thunder. “There are other stars up there, stars like Beethoven, who was deaf… Milton, who was blind… And Lincoln, who lived in terrible poverty, far worse than yours. Hear me, Tulo! Adversity is not a curse, it is a blessing. The brightest stars in heaven are those who have been tested in the furnace of tribulation. Show me a human being who has never suffered adversity and I’ll show you the most unhappy person on earth!”

Slowly the star’s color turned a deep blue and his voice was soft as he continued.

“Tulo, you live in a world filled with people making excuses for their failure because it is always easier to quit than to keep trying. I cannot allow you to walk that path of despair.”

We all admire people in our lives or people that we have studied about that have gone through much tribulation. Take time to think about how their example has helped you be a better person. Now think about what would happen if they had given up. In order to truly live life’s golden rule, we must never give up in the face of adversity. Other people are counting on us to succeed. Our future children, our close friends, anyone in our circle of influence can be strengthened by our courage and strength to not give up in adversity.

We must welcome adversity because when we work through it we are stronger and our strength will lift others, just as we have at times been lifted by someone else’s courage and strength. Be strong. Face adversity with optimism and a desire to help others. We will make the world a better place, especially in the trials of our lives.